I recently read some stories about Yvonne Eisenring who decided to quit her job as TV reporter to look for love. A year ago, she left her apartment in Zurich, traveled to 12 countries, and had at least 50 dates since then. Her year-long trip gave her a chance to write a bestseller book, Ein Jahr für die Liebe: 1 Jahr, 12 Länder, 50 Dates(One year for love: 1 year, 12 countries, 50 Dates).
“When I turned 27, I realized that I hadn’t been in love for a while and asked myself why,” Eisenring told Vice. “I wanted to see if falling in love is more likely to happen when you have free time and no responsibilities.”
Her story reminded me of Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Hilbert – a tale of one woman’s search for self-discovery, including love. Gilbert took a year off to travel across Italy, India, and Indonesia, where she eventually met her now ex-husband in Bali.
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Last year I spent four months traveling around China, and I met a lot of fellow-tourists there who just packed their bag and traveled. Some adventurers indeed live by the “work, save, travel, repeat” motto, #wanderlust. Since we are single, why not just explore the world for a self-discovery. If we are lucky, we might even find love. But last year, did I find love? No.
Yes, I did have a lot of dates when I traveled, but the deal with “vacation-boyfriends” are sweet, romantic and not causing any emotional baggage. Both parties knew that there is an end to the “honeymoon” trip. Even though we enjoyed the time together a lot, but it would be unrealistic to pretend the date can continue back in every day “real-life.” We can’t all live out The Notebook fantasy, when Rachel McAdams managed to live happily ever after with Ryan Gosling only after a short summer love affair.
It sure did help to take a time off and asking yourself on what you want in life. However, does dating full time really equal the discovery of your soulmate? Hell no! Quitting your job won’t help you to fall in love.
So, how about Eisenring? Did she find love? “I don’t want to say because that would be giving away the end of my book. All I’ll say is that I’m very happy at the moment,” she said. We can't wait to read the bestseller book in English.
But Eisenring did share her key takeaway from her forty-hour-a-week search for love:
“It’s worth it to take the risk and focus on your private life. Some people are afraid of losing control or getting hurt. Falling in love shakes you up. It’s strange that people will put so much effort into their careers but don’t want to invest anything in love.”
Should we invest more in love? Leave your comment below. You can also read Yvonne’s full interview with Vice here.